and Discipline For Dads and Sons
In life, some people are naturally dominant and some are not. The Dad/Son relationship recognizes this and celebrates each person in a most erotic way. If you are a Son and this is your first time reading this, know that your submissive side is something to enjoy and share with your Dad. And if you are a Dad, know that your Son wants you to take the upper hand and that he needs your direction and firmness. The rules and ideas contained in this handbook are optional. But you will find, that most of them are highly applicable and should be adhered to. The relationship is based on a series of rules. When the rules are broken, discipline must follow. Corporal punishment is always the best method to tame a wayward Son. A Son must expect a caning, a spanking or a punishment when he has been bad. Each and Dad/Son team must determine what is right for them. And at the start of a Dad/Son relationship, even before each individual knows each other all that well, a preliminary spanking or caning is mandatory to set the tone. The best advice is start simply and add as Dad sees fit. As long as clarity is applied and the rules are followed, the outcome will be beneficial.
A great many Dad's ( and Son's ) have found that the possession of an edition of this little book, with its ideas and suggestions has made a great difference when they are applied to the difficult Son's in their charge to their great satisfaction.
First off, as a Daddy you always lead the way. You set the tone and atmosphere of the relationship. You do this by setting down a set of Rules or an Honor Code for your Son to follow. You reward your Son when he's good. And you must discipline him promptly when he's bad. Remember " He who spares the rod spoils the boy. " Your Son expects and desires this so don't waste your time. If he steps out of line, give him a punishment. He'll be glad you did. When it comes to discipline, use stern corporal punishments. i.e.; canings, strappings, spankings and humiliations. Never lose sight of the fact that a little punishment can go a long way and that most Sons prefer a firm approach to a soft one and recognize that it is in their best interests in the long run.
Remember too that Sons are always inclined to be naughty for at least some of the time and that punishment is usually expected by them. By being a stern but fair administrator of punishment you will earn their respect so that your Son will know when to expect it and will virtually ask that it be given to him on occasions.
The first rule of all to impress on your Son is the need for absolute punctuality. He should arrive and depart exactly on time, neither earlier nor later than set. Strict punctuality when enforced will also encourage the timely completion of schoolwork and respect for the time of others. Do not fail to punish the slightest infractions with great firmness from the beginning.
Upon entering into the relationship, you must show your Son all the tools of punishment. He will, most likely, both fear and desire them. It will be his duty to keep them in tip top condition. And eventually, he will have the honor of making his own birch or cane. Eventually, when he misbehaves, he will willingly ask you for his punishments and ask to be punished with the honor cane he made with his own hands.
Always ensure that you have a sufficient range of punishment instruments to suit the age, size, disposition temperament and build of your Son. Sons come in all shapes and sizes as do their bottoms and what will produce tears and howls from one boy may elicit nothing from another. The instrument is part of the punishment. Let your Son see your collection and let them fear which it is you will select on each occasion. You may sometimes ask them to chose. Always note which instruments have most impact on your Son and take early opportunities to test their reactions and establish those which have the greatest impact for them, the mere threat of which will induce obedience.
Always stretch and play with your Son's foreskin, cock and balls while administering a punishment. He likes and learns from the delicious combination of pleasure and punishment. Precum and ejaculation are to be encouraged and rewarded.
For many Son's, there is nothing so effective as a spanking over Dads knee to bring them to better behavior and orgasm. Most domestic hairbrushes will do nicely, as they have weight and will deliver a firm smack to a boys bottom. The hand can of course be effective but in such cases it is usually best to take down your Sons trousers and spank his bare bottom. This humiliating treatment will work treating them as naughty little children. For really difficult Son's it may only be a preliminary treatment and further measures will be needed.
As a rule 12 smacks up to 2 dozen should be given at a steady pace covering the whole area alternating between each buttock. For a more impressive effect deliver groups of 3 smacks in succession on the same spot. Son's who are used to punishment will usually outgrow this treatment but for the younger and newer ones it can be very efficacious.
Tears are not to be regretted, nor should a Dad cease punishment because of them. Rather he should continue to the end of the assigned number of strokes even intensifying the strength to bring home to the Son his fault. If still tearful he should be placed somewhere quiet to reflect and to recover his emotions. Usually a corner of the room will do. If the Sons trousers have been taken down or removed they should not be allowed him until signs of better behavior are shown.
It is often a most effective treatment to insist that the your Son -- who has just been punished -- is seated at the desk on a hard stool or chair without the benefit of his trousers or underclothing. This will remind him of the punishment and thus reduce the likelihood of any repetition as well as affording instant access to the bare bottom if any further correction needs to be applied. Placing an appropriate punishment item before him will further reinforce this lesson.
The birch is one of the most effective instruments for punishment ever devised. Its severity and effect is as great or as little as is devised in its construction and its use allows infinite variety. It is of course always used on the bared bottom, and a kneeling or similar position is to be preferred. No less than 6 and no more than 24 strokes should be administered.
It is always a good idea to have your Son manufacture his own personal rod from materials provided. It is salutary to have your Son do so with his trousers already removed immediately prior to its use on him. This along with other procedures and techniques reinforces the law that makes him have to bare his bottom on any and all occasions that you command for his punishments. It should be a rare honor for him not to have to do so and it should be his normal instinct to begin to unbutton the moment he knows he is to be chastised and to present his butt already bared to you for the punishment.
A Son's bottom is particularly sensitive where the legs and thighs end and the bottom begins. This is where he sits and a skilled disciplinarian will concentrate his efforts over time on this spot. Any flexible slipper or sole or paddle will do to tenderize and redden the boy there. Make sure a healthy "slap" sound is produced and eventually you will get some "Ows" and "Ahs" to match. Watch him when he resumes his seat. Does he squirm and sit down carefully? Or does he sit down heavily without any hesitation? If the former well and good. If the latter then more care, intensity and effort is needed.
Be sure that you are leaving no area unaffected by your treatment. It is easy to forget that there are two sides to your Son's bottom and it is common for right handed Dads to thrash all on the right and left on the left. If you place your Son over a low stool, bench, ottoman or table it is easy to change sides and ensure that there is no skin untouched by your attentions and that after a prolonged period of training the most troublesome Son has had a thoroughly good taste of discipline.
When delivering a thorough caning/spanking/strapping it is best if you can make your Son spread his legs and his ass cheeks wide. This increases the target area and affords an opportunity to land the cane in the inner cheeks increasing the effectiveness of the punishment. You may wish to finger fuck or dildo him in this position. If your Son requests this, you must comply.
To be always physically disciplining your Son is not really a practical method and an element of moderate humiliation will often make more of an impression and make them more wary of punishment than the fiercest of spankings. You can't keep spanking your Son's horny butt all the time so you must learn how to keep him in line using humiliation. Remember not all Son's react the same way, so you may have to experiment to find the most effective humiliation for him. Please see the section on " Clothing, " for more ideas in this department.
Although you may not always like it, you must let your Son have complete access to your cock at all times. And you his. Encourage your Son to show off his equipment when ever he pleases.
Although your Son will whine and complain, you must set a sartorial tone for him. Underwear unless it fulfills a mutual interest is forbidden. Shorts should be a size or two small. Jeans should have appropriate rips and should be very tight fitting.
Although not absolutely necessary or universally applicable, sometimes English School Boy Shorts make an interesting addition. They can be used as a mild humiliation or as a punishment or both when worn in public or private. Make or have made a series of gray worsted school short trousers. Prepare them in the following manner.
In the first pair have two triangular tears, not very big, but enough to see if your Son's bottom has been spanked. These are for public use as a punishment.
The second pair should have a large square cut out of the back.
The third pair should have no middle seam. These are pretty excellent for when your Son tries to cover his front, his backside is exposed. And when he tries to cover his back side, his front is exposed.
The forth pair should have a zipper on the side and a rather a small hole to pull his cock and balls through. With both out, it will be a little uncomfortable sitting down.
A fifth pair should have a large hole at the front.
A sixth pair should be pretty much normal, albeit, very brief. Your Son should only be allowed to wear these if he has proved worthy of them.
And the last pair should look quite ordinary and fit well. These are for school and social occasions. The only difference is they should contain a butt plug in the back sewn in at seam level. These may take some getting use to, so lube up the plug and have your Son put them on. Then instruct him to sit on a hard wooden chair. He'll complain, but he'll get use to them.
In regards to any other pants, make sure the front pockets are cut out so you can access his cock and balls at all times.
You must teach your Son to be completely uninhibited. So when appropriate, insist he be naked. Appropriate shoes -- if any -- would be doc's.
It's up to the Dad to keep both himself and his boy properly shaved at all times. The cock should be trimmed. Balls and ass should be entirely denuded. Do this on a weekly basis.
It is the sole responsibility of the Dad to supply his ward with all desired toys i.e.: cockrings, dildoes, paddles, butt plugs etc. Take your Son to the local sex shop and let him browse. If he shows a special interest in a new cane or anything, get it for him. Deny him nothing. This is an important reward for obedient behavior.
Should you Son wish to be pierced, you are not to deny him. And again it is the responsibility of the Dad to have the honor of paying for the procedure. This can be another important reward for obedient behavior.
Outline of Possible Rules and Applicable Punishments and Rewards
Son agrees to call Dad " Sir " when they are in private without having to be reminded - if he needs reminding - 3 smacks with the belt over his butt on the spot - six if it happens twice in a row.
Son agrees to be punctual. 6 cracks of the cane over his butt - another 6 if it happens twice in a row.
Son agrees to make his own bed or Dads and keep his room and Dads reasonably tidy - 6 with a ruler on his bare bottom at bedtime.
Son agrees not to make too much noise at times when it is agreed he should be quiet. - 6 with a cane or hand over his underwear.
Son agrees not to go into Dad rooms without his permission - 6 with a thin cane over his shorts.
Son agrees to be polite and properly behaved when Dad has adult visitors. - If Dad has to issue more than one warning he will go early to bed or to his room and be given 12 smacks with the belt on his bare bottom when the visitors have gone.
Son agrees not to break useful and valuable things through carelessness - 6 with a cane - 12 if he has been very careless.
Son agrees not to break anything deliberately or in a temper. - 6 strokes with a cane on his bare bottom - 12 if he has been very destructive.
Son agrees not to tell lies - 12 strokes on his bare bottom if found out in a lie.
Son agrees not to tell lies in order to avoid being caught breaking a rule - 12 strokes with a cane on is bare bottom plus the original punishment.
Son agrees not to disobey instructions given by Dad when he says it is important - 6 strokes of the cane - 12 if he continues to disobey.
Son agrees to accept his punishments and to obey all the instructions given to him when receiving them. - Dad may repeat the punishment or start it again if he is not satisfied.
Son agrees to obey any instructions given when being punished - to bend over, go over Dad's knee or take up any other position and to take down his trousers to bare his bottom if required even if there are other people present.
Son agrees he must ask permission to beat off or take a piss. He also agrees to piss in front of his Dad if requested.
Son agrees to tell Dad when he has been bad and needs a punishment. It should be natural for Son to unzip and bare his butt for Daddy to punish.
Son agrees to wear or not wear whatever Dad tells him.
Son agrees to let Dad shave his cock balls and ass whenever Dad sees fit
Son agrees to look after Dads canes, belts and paddles. He will varnish, wax, saddle soap and maintain them. Son agrees he will be naked and hard when he does this.
Son agrees to count each punishment and thank Dad for each stoke. If he looses count, Dad will begin a fresh.
- Dad agrees not to create new rules or punishments without first agreeing them with Son.
- Dad agrees not to punish Son for disobeying silly, trivial or unimportant instructions.
- Dad agrees not to administer any punishments when in a temper.
- Dad agrees that when Son has been punished that is the end of the matter.
- Dad agrees to stick to the punishments laid down for the offenses agreed.
- Dad agrees Son may cry if he needs to when being punished.
- Dad agrees to buy any and all sex toys Son may wish.
POSITION & POSTURE
Next comes an article written most obvisouly by a master spanker. The author explains in painstaking detail the importance of position and posture.
One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of swatting is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are haphazard, I prefer spankings that include the ritual of positioning.
Both the spankee and spanker adopt positions that facilitate and enhance the spanking. These positions generally work to the advantage of the spanker and the disadvantage of the spankee.
The spanker enjoys the following advantages from their position:
Whether standing or sitting, the spanker is positioned to be comfortable throughout the spanking. They are able to swing their arm at a natural angle and able to sustain a lengthy spanking with ease because of their position.
Because they are able to wind up and freely swing their arm at a natural angle, the spanker is able to apply swats to the intended target with force. While standing, the spanker cannot only swing their arm but rotate their body to deliver maximum energy to an anxiously awaiting, clenching derriere.
Full access to the bottom to be spanked. The spankee's position is designed to fully expose their bottom and the spanker's relative position is designed to put that bottom at a convenient angle and height. Therefore, the spanker is able completely view, tweak, pat, and spank it.
Because the spanker is in the position to easily spank the rear-end at the correct angle, it is much less likely that a blow will fall too high or too low.
The spanker's position gives them the "upper hand" and allows them to easily control the spankee. They sit or stand higher than the spankee and are easily able to restrain and situate the spankee.
The spankee realizes the following effects from their position:
Except for the notable exception of their backside, I think it's important that the spankee be relatively comfortable so they can focus on the sensations being inflicted upon their posterior.
Bending over and getting into position to get your bottom blistered signals the beginning of the spanking and builds anticipation.
A properly positioned bottom will tend to be spanked harder and more completely on the sensitive "sit spot".
Being put over the knee is a childish, humiliating posture. Having to "assume the position" is humiliating in its submission and rubs in the fact that they are being spanked.
A properly positioned bottom is fully exposed. The cheeks are fully presented and split, their undersides turned up. In the case of sons, the anus and back of scrotum show. His cock will usually be hard, so you may wish to pull down at a 90 degree angle. If uncircumcised, make sure the foreksin is pulled down over the glands. Emphasis on their bottom.
Spanking positions place the center of attention on the bottom of the person being spanked, a fact not lost on said person. The bottom is emphasized by its exposure and upturned position relative to the spanker.
Presentation of their bottom.
Not only is the bottom exposed and emphasized but the spankee feels they are willingly "sticking it out" and presenting it for its punishment in the same way as the condemned man who must place his head on the chopping block. The spankee knows their bottom cannot evade or escape the swats.
Cooperatively getting into position to be spanked is the primary act of submission in spanking.
Although it may be of little solace, the spankee can take comfort in the fact that their position affords safety from injury. Of course, this can be disconcerting if they know they will be spanked with even more abandon.
Loss of control.
Once positioned, the spankee has relinquished control and may not easily regain it until the spanking is done. They may have difficulty removing their rear from the line of fire if they try.
Inability to clench.
When standing, one can clench their cheeks together, mitigating the sting of a swat and the exposure. When properly positioned, it is more difficult to clench cheeks and the spanking will be applied to a relaxed, bouncing bottom.
Excellent visual presentation.
Speaking from the point of view of an admitted bottom fancier, there a few times that someone looks more adorable and beautiful than when he is positioned to be spanked. Not only is the bottom emphasized, but it is formed to a flattering shape and sexily perked out. Spanking positions would be sexy even to people not into spanking.
Following are descriptions of various positions that I find erotic, their distinguishing characteristics, tactics that can be used to enhance them, and precautions to take. All descriptions assume a right-handed spanker.
Over the lap.
Spanker is sitting with good posture in an armless chair, knees together. Person being spanked must lay face- down across the spanker's lap, their head to the left and feet to the right. They must be over the lap far enough so their bottom is conveniently located directly over the spanker's right thigh.
In order to preserve modesty, the person being spanked may be tempted to lie flat with their head up and legs straight out behind; however, if they are concerned for their modesty, they shouldn't have gotten themselves spanked in the first place. The spankee's head and shoulders should be angled down and their knees tucked down out of the way so that their bottom is well turned up. A palm pressed against the back of the head and swats to the thighs are helpful in positioning the spankee.
Knees should be at least six inches apart and the lower back should be "arched" or dipped to further turn up their rear. Depending on size, toes will either be resting against the floor or hoisted off a few inches. The full weight of the spankee should be resting on the lap.
Hands can either be on the floor or grasping the legs of the chair. If the right hand flies back during spanking, it should be pinned to the lower back by the spanker's left hand.
Prior to starting to spank, the spanker should firmly grasp the spankee's waist above the right hip with the left hand to prevent squirming off the lap. Then the left elbow should be planted between the shoulder blades to keep the head and shoulders from bobbing up.
The spanker should raise their right knee slightly, turning up the bottom further. When spanking a boy, make sure his penis is pressed firmly against your right thigh and aimed to the left.
By turning their upper body to the right, the spanker can get a fuller swing and more comfortably apply a stronger swat.
By combining all of these tactics - the raised knee, the elbow in the back, the hand in the small of the back - the spanker can effectively pin the spankee down and spank the daylights out of them.
Over the knee.
Similar to over-the-lap except the spankee is bent over the left knee with their legs restrained by the spanker's right leg.
Hands on ankles.
This is the classic school-style paddling position. The student must stand well clear of obstacles with feet shoulder width apart. Leaving knees straight and back straight, the student must bend over and grasp their ankles with both hands. The spanker may want to observe the student's hands throughout the paddling to ensure they do not leave the ankles and earn extra swats.
The spanker stands facing the left side of the student. They should stand far enough away so the paddle barely overlaps past the right cheek. They should adjust fore and aft to ensure that both cheeks are struck at the same time (assuming a paddle is being used. Canes and straps warrant slightly forward positioning).
It is not possible to more fully expose and present a rear end than when in this position. When one is told to bend over and grab their ankles, one is, in effect, being told, "we intend to thoroughly paddle your bottom. So not only will you present your rear-end but you will stretch and endeavor to stick it up and out as far as you can absolutely positively can. And throughout the paddling, you will continue to strain to stick it out for the paddle."
Since the angle between the legs and the upper body is well under 90 degrees, this position spreads the cheeks and exposes the rectum and genitals more than any other position.
This is a great fantasy position but I think it only works safely in reality for spankees with flexible bodies (especially when a thick paddle is used). Inflexible people can't reach their ankles without bending their knees. Men run the risk of getting their testicles whacked. Non-fleshy butts get pulled tightly across the pelvic bones and don't provide enough padding when a heavy paddle is used.
Hands on knees.
A safer, more workable position than hands-on- ankles. The bottom is presented in a plumper, more paddle-friendly shape but visually, the position is still very school-like. Depending on the person, I think this position can be more visually appealing because the back can be arched a bit which perks up the bottom. In fact, the further up the legs the hands are placed, the more the spankee can arch their back and stick out their rump.
Again, feet should be shoulder width apart and hand position enforced. Because the back can be arched and bottom upturned, it should be required, both prior and during the paddling. A technique which tends to arch the back correctly is to require the student to look forward at a spot high on the wall. That way, they are required to pull their head up and arch their back.
Over the desk on tiptoes.
Another school-like position. The student must bend over a desk with nose or chest pressed to the desk. Hands and arms should be placed on the desk over their head to further arch the back. To further elevate their bottoms to be spanked, they must raise up on to their toes. Penalty swats can be awarded for every incidence of a heal touching the floor (hint: watch after the "last" swat before the student is told they may relax).
Over a barstool or horse.
This is probably the best position for paddling because the bottom is presented in a plump and relaxed manner. The person to be punished must lay their full weight across the stool, their feet hanging and hands grasping the legs of the stool at a level such that there is a little support for their upper body.
This is a relaxed, comfortable position which works well for lengthy spankings.
Laying on bed.
Another comfortable position for lengthy spankings and ensuing diversions. The spankee must lay face-down on a bed. Their face should be pressed to the mattress while their hips and bottom are elevated on pillows. Since pillows are compressible, it may take three or four to achieve the proper elevation.
Kneeling in chair.
One of my favorite positions for spankees with great butts because, properly executed, it presents the rear in its most flattering light. The trick is in the execution.
The spankee must kneel in the seat of a padded chair (save those knees) facing the back with the thighs vertical and upper body forward over the back. Again, the spankee should be required to arch the back well.
Two things conspire to shape his bottom cutely. First, the back of the chair prevents him from bending so far as to preclude a good back arch. Second, just as high heels shape calves fully by angling the foot to shorten and bulge the calf muscle, kneeling with the calves at right angles to the thighs seems to allow the buttocks to bulge fully.
I've found the following tactics can be used to enhance and focus on positioning:
Adjustment & readjustment.
I think it's important to deliberately position and adjust the spankee prior to the first swat. Emphasis should be placed on positioning and presenting the bottom fully. Throughout the spanking, the spankee should be readjusted as their position begins to fail.
I think it's best to require the spankee to willfully maintain their own position with out the physical assistance of the spanker especially in the case of stand-up paddlings. Therefore, verbal communication is necessary throughout the spanking to encourage the spankee to continue to assume the correct position.
One of the disciplinary aspects of spanking is that no matter how perfect the spankee is positioned, they can always improve, stick their bottom out a little further, etc. The spanker should not feel guilty that their exacting demands regarding position are perhaps a little too picky and unrealistic.